Articles for Spouses of Sex Addicts

Groundbreaking Book for Wives Released
by Brockwell Bone
Dr. Barbara Stephens and Marsha Means, M.A. have released the first chapter of their new book focusing on the trauma and post traumatic stress wives of sex addicts experience.
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The Goose & the Power of the Group
by Marsha Means, M.A.
Day after day I encounter trauma in the lives of hurting women—women who’ve experienced sexual betrayal from the man they love. In each of their voices and each of their stories I hear the raw, searing pain that comes with the discovery that much of what they have believed about their lives is not real. None of us is equipped to face, endure, process, and heal from such gut-level agony on our own.
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Silda Wall Spitzer and Sexual Betrayal – dealing with the trauma
by Marsha Means, M.A.
In the aftermath of the revelation of former Governor Spitzer’s ties to a New York prostitution service, the Emperor’s Club VIP, both the media and the general public continue to speculate about Silda Wall Spitzer’s thoughts and personal life. The same news that shattered Mrs. Spitzer’s world has turned into a million-dollar-plus-trick for Ashley Alexandra Dupre. You can even buy an Emperor’s Club VIP “Client 9” T-shirt online to show that you’re one of her new fans.
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New resources for partners
by Marsha Means, M.A.
We are excited to tell you about two wonderful new resources that are now available to you, and to any other woman you know who is facing the pain and confusion that sex addiction brings into our lives, families, and marriages. Because I personally experienced amazing support and profound healing through telephone coaching as my own world fell apart during the last few years, I have come to believe that coaching holds huge potential for hurting partners everywhere. And because of modern technology, your location on the planet won’t prohibit you from benefiting from this powerful, relationship-based support.
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How Do I Recover from this Trauma & Pain?
by Marsha Means, M.A.
The devastating betrayal and loss a woman feels when she discoverers her husband's emotional, mental, or physical unfaithfulness destroys her world and shatters her trust. Her grief forms a kaleidoscope of complex emotions, the depth and range of which may vary from day to day, and from woman to woman. But one thing remains certain for all: they experience these emotions in multiple ways and on multiple levels, often simultaneously.
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